Ashley Graham has had a rollercoaster year so far, from being the plus size hero in her Cosmo interview to the victim of a recent weight loss controversy. In response to being called out by her fans for allegedly losing weight, she pens a letter urging women to stop shaming each other once and for all as she insists that she is ‘more than her measurements’ after being criticized for being ‘too fat’ and ‘too thin’.
The 28-year-old model from Lincoln, Nebraska, penned addressed the allegations head on in a letter published on the Lenny Letter platform on yesterday, just a few weeks after shared a photo in which she appeared to have lost weight. Read what Ashley had to say in the powerful letter below;
Shamed If I Do, Shamed If I Don’t
Raise your hand if you go through a tough selfie-editing process before picking the perfect photo to post on Instagram. Most people wouldn’t put up a picture they felt made them feel less than beautiful. Having been a model for sixteen years, I know my angles, just like we all know our favorite filters and lighting and our good sides. I pick the photos I like best.
They say you should never read the comments. But I simply can’t not do it. Social media has given me a voice and allowed me to further my platform as a body activist. Without it, I couldn’t have built the #BeautyBeyondSize community. My followers are the first people I turn to for feedback on anything I do, from designing my lingerie, dress, and swimsuit lines to the things I discuss in my public speeches. I have to read the comments.
Social media has given me a voice and allowed me to further my platform as a body activist.
I know the comments won’t all be positive. I’m a confident woman with thick skin, and as a model in the public eye, I’m conditioned to accept criticism. But last week, I admit that I had a tougher time brushing off the haters.
While I was on set filming America‘s Next Top Model, my hairstylist snapped a picture of me in a white knit skirt, matching crop top, and an amazing Balmain leather jacket that I absolutely loved. It was one of those photos where you look and say to yourself, “YESSSS, HONEY! I look damn good!” I didn’t give it a second thought when I posted it, but soon the image went viral. Not because of how good I looked wearing a high-end designer that doesn’t usually market to women my size, but because of people’s misguided views on women’s bodies and who owns the rights to them. Here is some of my feedback:
“I am so disappointed in you.“
“You don‘t make plus-size dollars anymore, you make backstabbing dollars.“
“You don‘t love the skin you‘re in, you want to conform to Hollywood, you believe being skinnier is prettier.“
“You used to be a role model and I looked up to you.“
According to the comments, some people were upset because I appeared to be slimmer. (Knowing my angles is one thing, but I must be a magician to make people think I went from a size 14 to a size 6 in a week!) The reality is I haven’t lost a pound this year. In fact, I’m actually heavier than I was three years ago, but I accept my body as it is today. I work out not to lose weight but to maintain my good health. And anyway, if I did want to lose weight, it would be no one’s decision but my own. I love to sweat it out at the gym — two years ago, I even made workout videos — but I also don’t restrict myself from eating certain foods or indulging on some extra-cheese mac ‘n’ cheese every once in a while.
To some, I’m too curvy. To others I’m too tall, too busty, too loud, and, now, too small — too much, but at the same time not enough. When I post a photo from a “good angle,” I receive criticism for looking smaller and selling out. When I post photos showing my cellulite, stretch marks, and rolls, I’m accused of promoting obesity. The cycle of body-shaming needs to end. I’m over it.
Click HERE to read Ashley’s full letter.
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